About 4 months after my kids suddenly lost their father, and knowing that all three would not grow up with lessons and stories about their daddy told by their daddy, I sent out a request to all of our friends, family, acquaintances, co-workers, etc. asking for them to write down something about Gene that touched their life and submit it to the Daddy Book. I was creating a Daddy Book full of pictures and stories to give to the kids as an Easter gift.
This book would be a symbol of their dad and the life he lived. At their tender ages of 2, 5 and 7, I mostly read the stories and memoirs to them while they enjoyed looking at all the pictures. Over the years as each one of them grew, the Daddy Book was a source of solace and comfort to all of us.
Fast forward to today. I now have a granddaughter, Little Miss Lily, who just turned two. She is enthralled with the Daddy Book as she is growing up learning who ‘Gampa Gene’ is/was and the role he lives in her life and that he lives in Heaven. You might think a little one at this tender age is not capable of learning such depths of life, death, and Heaven and Earth, but do not underestimate the power and capability of a little ones mind, heart and soul. My youngest daughter was just about Lily’s age when her dad died and shares the same experience of having to grow up not truly knowing her dad and her memories are stories. Together Lily and Auntie Kayla will always have this bond.
Create a book of your loved one’s life. Reach out and ask people who knew him/her to jot a couple of stories and memories down. Years ago I used sleeve protectors and a three-ring binder…. today there are all sorts of resources that can be used on the internet and sites that can make it look so professional. However, I kind of like the ‘old-fashioned’ assembly.
May you find peace and love in your hearts and happiness and joy in your souls.