The Griever’s Holiday Bill of Rights by: Bruce H. Conley
1. You have the right to say “time out!” anytime you need to. Time out to blow a little steam, step away from the
holidays and start over.
2. You have the right to tell it like it is. When people ask how you are, you have the right to tell them how you
really feel, not just what they want to hear. (You also have the right to smile and say you’re fine because some
people will never understand anyway.)
3. You have the right to SOME ‘Bah Humbug’ Days. You don’t have to be “Jolly Old St. Nicholas” all the time. You’re
not a bad person just because you don’t feel like singing Christmas carols all day.
4. You have the right to do things differently. There’s no law that says you always have to do Christmas the same
way. The list of things you can change to make it easier for you is endless.
5. You have the right to be where you want to be. Be at home or the relatives. Be in any city or state you choose!
And remember, you can still have Christmas without snow.
6. You have the right to some fun! When you have a day that isn’t so bad and you feel like doing something just for
fun, go ahead! Laughter is just as important as tears.
7. You have the right to change directions in mid-steam. Holiday grief is unpredictable. Even if you’re all ready to
walk out the door and suddenly feel overwhelmed, it’s ok to change your mind.
8. You have the right to do things at different times. Go to church, open presents, serve meals, and even go to bed
at a different time. Don’t be a slave to the holiday clock.
9. You have the right to rest, peace and solitude. You don’t need to be busy all the time. Take a nap whenever you
need one. Take the time to recharge your spirit and body.
10. You have the right to do it all different again next year. Just because you might’ve changed things this year
doesn’t mean you can’t change them back to the way they were or even try more new things.