Try this exercise for 30 days and if it makes you feel better, keep it going. Get a spiral notebook. Keep it by your bedside with a pen (pen ink is a symbol of permanence). No matter how tired you are or how bad the day was, after you brush your teeth and are ready to plop into bed, sit for a moment and reflect on your day. Jot down a thing or two that you are blessed with. Some nights it will be very difficult to find a happy moment; it could be as simple as the sun was shining and not raining outside, or when you got to work the coffee was made in the break room, or someone waved you in into traffic at rush hour. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. I can remember in moments of grief and despair acknowledging that if my kids got a PBJ and the house didn’t get burnt to the ground, I was doing pretty darn good.
If ‘journaling’ is not your thing; get a jar and jot down notes of good things that happens to you. Then at a later date, you can read them and appreciate the good things that much more.
So, in addition to reprogramming your brain to focus on happy and joyous things in life, you now have a record and proof that you were indeed able to find some blessings. The next time you are feeling blue, angry, frustrated, you can look back on previous journal entries and see that you had the strength to do it once, and you can do it again. The gift you receive is believing in yourself and how strong you really are.