Many of you know that the funeral and/or memorial is not necessarily for the deceased. It is for the LIVING and those loved ones left behind to honor and celebrate the life of the deceased. It is an important step to help the catapult a healthy grieving and mourning journey. Without this step, many people have difficulty and challenges with the grief process AND the mourning process, which are both a huge necessity to healing.
My heart goes out to the Anderson family and their friends and loved ones. My heart also goes out to the DiMaggio family.
We have had ‘sensationalism’ with Newtown, Columbine, 9-11, Gifford, and many others… This recent article is no different and has given me mixed feelings. http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/08/24/20155212-san-diego-mourns-mother-brother-of-kidnapping-victim-hannah-anderson?lite
On one hand, it’s wonderful that the media is reporting on this private event that happened to Hannah Anderson and her immediate family in order to keep us (strangers and hopefully supporters) informed, in the loop and a part of it. As human beings we have that natural curiosity and nurturing interest in wanting to help. Involving the community (and communities at large) can be a significant comfort for the victims, or as Hannah eloquently put, SURVIVORS, by providing prayer chains, love and support to those who have been torn apart with bereavement.
On the other hand, in addition to comfort, though, involving ‘community’ by media can also be horrific, intrusive and add to the feelings of being invaded, and stripped away any feelings of safety and belonging.
As a griever when your loved one passed, what comforted you? Did you want the entire world to know? Did you want as many people as possible to attend the funeral? If so, what did that signify? What are your thoughts? I’d love to hear them. Please take a moment to share below.